As a mother, I naturally put everyone else first. I take care of my children’s needs before my own. For almost three weeks we have had an awful virus in the house. The kids have been out of school several days and I was out of work as a result. I wasn’t able to work out as well. I was sick with the virus but instead of resting, I made sure the kids got better. At one point I broke down. I felt my face fill with pressure and I hoped that it wouldn’t lead to a sinus infection (I am having more surgery to prevent them next month). Well, it did. I have been miserable for the past few days. I started antibiotics yesterday but still feel very under the weather. It is one of the worst I have ever had.
I wonder if I had taken a little more care of myself earlier, if I could have avoided it changing into a sinus infection. I suppose there is a 50/50 chance it could have been avoided but I would hope that something would have helped. Now I am practically useless until the pain goes away and that is no help to anyone.
In order to be an efficient parent or partner, you need to be healthy. If you are run down and sick all the time you aren’t going to get as much accomplished. You won’t give as much of your attention. You won’t be as happy. It is important to take time to care for yourself as much as possible. I feel like our society looks down on parents who take time to take care of themselves. They are seen as selfish. I don’t see anything wrong with being a little selfish. After all, you were born your own person. Parent and partner are roles that we take on but it shouldn’t be all we are.
You hear all the time about people losing themselves. I was one of them. I was still finding who I was when I took on a domestic life. I would not trade it for anything. I just wish I had had the realization earlier that I am allowed to love myself and have time devoted to self care at the same time. Self care can be anything from taking some down time to read at night or going to the gym. It can be having your cosmetic needs met or joining an adult club or sports league. It always means taking care of your medical needs. Sometimes it helps to have an accountability buddy so that you remember to make important appointments like routine body checks. If your body tells you to rest, then rest. It can be that simple.
Taking care of yourself will ensure you will be around longer and remain able to take care of your loved ones. Try to do at least one thing a day just for yourself. It will be worth taking that small amount of time. You will find out that you can certainly can be good to yourself as well as your family. You are worth it.